Grieving, 1972
for Jim
You — bugger
you — arsehole
you — stinking shithouse
Dying
without me
Leaving
me stranded
Having
to keep on
Living
without you
Knowing
I’ll never
See you
again
You bastard —
You bloody bastard you —
© J. C. Sturm, Dedications, Steele Roberts, 1996
I was in Opunake for a couple of nights camping in January, and as we passed Taranaki maunga on the way there, I remembered it was the tūrangawaewae of poet and fiction writer, Jacqueline (J.C.) Sturm.
It’s something of a regret that we never crossed paths, despite both living on the Kāpiti Coast in the same early 2000s. I would have liked to thank her for this unforgettable poem, for the permission she gives herself – and, unwittingly, any poet who’s ever been silenced – to directly accuse, to swear, to rage and ache (I imagine from a west coast clifftop, face into the southerly wind whipping up volcanic blacksand)… in this case, at her loved, lionized, rogue husband, for dying without her.
There are so many layers here – her mantle of anger in the first, brilliant, versatile stanza, to the intimate, broken heart of the poem, and back to the cursing, in an emphatic finale. Such a satisfying poem.
‘Grieving, 1972’ has a companion in ‘And again, 1989’ – here, Sturm returns to the subject of her grief, but now the pain has significantly lessened, maybe almost gone. May it be so.
In celebration of the life and work of Jacqueline Sturm, let’s seek out copies of Dedications and Postscripts again; open their pages to the fresh air.
Nicola Easthope, 20 February 2019
And again, 1989
for Jim
It is all so different now.
I cannot swear
With such conviction
Nor do I thirst
So savagely for blood,
Anybody’s blood,
Or recompense
At anyone’s expense.
The trail is too old
Too cold
To follow as I used to
Taking directions from friends
And the not so friendly
(You were seen there
Doing that with them
The day before the day — )
Searching, combing
The landscape of my mind
Over and over again,
Desperate to find
The reason for your going
Or just to hear,
Still lingering
On the listening wind,
An echo of your voice.
Nor do I dream any more
Of finding that small
Very ordinary house
And those nervous strangers
Showing me where
You lay down
The last time.
It is all so different
Except, of course
You are there
And I am still here
Waiting,
And only God knows
(I do not ask to be told)
When, in his good time
This too will be different.
© J. C. Sturm, Dedications, Steele Roberts, 1996
J. C. Sturm (Jacqueline Cecilia) (1927–2009), of Taranaki iwi, Parihaka and Whakatōhea descent, was born in Opunake and is thought to be the first Māori woman to graduate with an MA from a New Zealand university (First Class Hons, Philosophy, Victoria University of Wellington). She initially wrote short fiction, and her work was the first by a Māori to appear in an anthology. Her debut poetry collection, Dedications (Steele Roberts, 1996), received an Honour Award at the 1997 Montana New Zealand Book Awards and she published further collections of poetry and short stories. Her poetry appeared in a number of anthologies and journals. Her collection, Postscripts (Steele Roberts, 2000), includes images by her son John Baxter. She received an honorary doctorate from Victoria University of Wellington, worked as a librarian, was married to James K Baxter and had two children.
Poems published with kind permission from the estate of J. C. Sturm.
cover by John Baxter
Te Ara page on J. C. Sturm by Paul Millar
NZ Book Council page
‘Grieving 1972’ – also the Maori way, the voice of direct address at tangi, where the deceased may be told off nearly as often as commended.
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